I know I should be sleeping. It's after midnight, we're leaving to Canada in less than seven hours... yeah, I should be sleeping.
But I can't sleep because I can't stop thinking of a conversation I had with a friend of mine today, er, yesterday.
So my friend tells me that her friend just left her husband because he confessed to watching porn.
Okay, now are you as baffled as me? Because when she told me this, I was pretty grateful I had my sunglasses on because I'm sure my expression was "What the fuck?"
This woman iss married to this guy.. they have two kids together.. she thinks he's watching porn on the internet.. he denies it. She persists. They end up going to a priest and he confesses in front of the priest that he's been watching porn on the internet. So she takes the kids and leaves him.
WTF?
So I'm trying to take the conservative perspective here, since obviously that's the side of the fence this woman is on, and I still can't comprehend how this can end a marriage.
And the craziest thing, is that MY friend agrees with this woman.
Yes, I know. I'm baffled.
Not only does she agree with this woman, but she is revolted by this man. Outraged that he did this. Horrified because he's watched her children before.
Yes, I know. I don't get it.
And now my friend's husband is worried and wants to disconnect their computer. Why, you ask? Because of the tempation. Like the big, bad, voodoo porn demon is going to get them.
So I have to ask, what's so bad with porn? Okay, so in this particular family, porn is bad. And therefore, in a strict, religious household, by engaging in watching porn, the sancity of marriage is voided? Doesn't sound very Christian-like.
But I'm trying not to judge. I want to understand. How can this ruin a marriage? Were they ever in love to begin with?
I'm thinking. If I was against porn, and I found out my husband was watching it...would I leave him? No.
What would I do if my husband was watching porn? Well, I'd either see what he's watching for some fabulous new ideas, or decide, "hey, whatever floats the boat." I mean, really, it's not like he's having an affair. What's the freakin' big deal about porn?
I'm trying to get it...but I just don't. And it's past midnight... and I can't sleep because I'm racking my brain trying to figure out how my friend can agree with this logic.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
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Now the only reason I could see for someone leaving her husband and taking the kids would be if he were watching morally objectional (illegal-type) porn.
I see nothing wrong with porn. Sexual satisfaction is a very basic and natural need, people who fight against it have some inner demons that hey can't grapple with. A healthy relationship requires a healthy sexual compatibility and understanding with both parties. A couple should fully explore their sexual interests with each other. It is best to know your partner fully before marriage, I think.
I absolutely agree.
BTW: From what I gathered, the porn that this guy was watching was just general legal porn on the internet.
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